R U Ok day is all about taking the time to check in with people around us. Here are some thoughts about how to start or have those conversations;
- Think about what you have observed that has you feel concerned and start there. “You look a little tired lately and I know you’ve got a lot on… How are you travelling?”
- Most people have at least 3 conversations before they decide to seek help. Even if you don’t see it right now, your care has made a difference.
- The most important moments often come after a silence. Don’t feel you have to fill it. Being there is enough.
- Telling someone you are struggling takes courage. “Hey… Thanks for telling me” is powerful even if we aren’t sure yet what will come next.
- Remember that it is not up to you to give advice or ‘fix’ anything. “How can I most help?” is a good start.
- Don’t put yourself under pressure to have the conversation go perfectly. We like to think it is more like two people talking on a park bench than anyone needing to have a red cape. It’s something we can all do…
- R U Ok? is also a good reminder to check in with ourselves. When low mood feels common, sleep is tough or worry is making more than a ‘cameo appearance’ in your self talk, supports are closer than you think.
- Remember there is EAP, GPs, crisis lines, lifestyle options, online information, self help, internal supports… Offer to help get them any further information.
- Even if there are not any clear ways forward, ask if it is okay if you check in again soon.